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10 Ways to Support Someone in Grief (From Someone Who’s Been There)
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1 year agoon

Grief is deeply personal, but one thing is true for almost everyone: it can feel incredibly lonely.
Over the course of my life, from childhood into my forties I lost both of my parents and two brothers. Those losses have shaped me in quiet and unspoken ways. And while the pain of grief is unforgettable, what I remember just as clearly are the people who found their way to me through the fog. With gentle presence, small kindnesses and quiet bravery.
If you’re reading this because someone you care about is grieving, thank you. Your willingness to show up, even if you’re unsure how, matters more than you probably realize.
This isn’t a how-to guide. It’s a collection of what helped me, and what I wish I’d had. Because most people do want to help. They just don’t always know where to start. So let this be a gentle beginning. A reminder that even the smallest gestures, when offered with love, can mean the world.
Things that are helpful, but ask first
1. Clean their house
When someone quietly swept the floor or folded the laundry, it brought a strange peace. But always ask. Grief can make the most ordinary things sacred: the shoes left by the door, a toothbrush still in the bathroom, the last jumper flung over a chair. These little scenes of their loved one’s last days can become altars. Clean around them, not through them.
2. Do the laundry
If you’re close enough, offer to help. But again, ask. I remember vividly when my sister-in-law handed me my brother’s t-shirt, worn just the day before he died. It still smelled like him. Some clothes aren’t ready to be washed. Some never will be.
3. Look after the plants or garden
Keep the living things alive. It might seem small, but to someone in grief, it matters. They may not even notice you’re doing it, but seeing their plants wither can feel like yet another loss.
Things you can often do without asking
4. Bring a care package
Think comfort. Soft socks, herbal tea, a scented candle, a soothing bath soak, a journal.
5. Restock their fridge
Water. Fruit. Coffee. Tea. Eggs. Milk. Restock the basics. It’s one less decision they’ll have to make, and it can be helpful to cater for the visitors
6. Prepare meals they can freeze
Grief disrupts everything, especially appetite. Homemade meals, frozen and ready when needed, can be quietly lifesaving. Plus having someone cooking for you in difficult times is nourishing on so many levels
7. Go with them to appointments or simply take them out for a coffee
Sometimes I couldn’t drive. Sometimes I couldn’t sit alone. Just having someone next to me in the waiting room, or even just outside in the car reminded me I didn’t have to do this all alone.
8. Help with paperwork
Admin and grief don’t mix. Cancelling subscriptions, closing accounts, applying for refunds, it’s a mountain. Climb it with them.
Emotional support that changed everything
9. Ask about the person they lost
Say their name. Risk getting it wrong. I’d rather be asked about my brothers and not be ready to talk, than for no one to ask at all. When my younger brother died at 16, I was 17. I remember how lonely I felt, not just because he was gone, but because I didn’t know how to bring him up without making people feel uncomfortable. Your curiosity is a gift. Dare to ask.
10. Keep showing up
The funeral ends. The cards stop. The world moves on. But grief doesn’t. The people who kept texting, who still asked how I was months later, who remembered birthdays and anniversaries, those are the ones I’m forever grateful for.
Grief doesn’t ask for answers. It asks for presence. Just keep being there. That’s what holds people together when everything else falls apart.
I support people through grief using mindfulness, movement, and science by helping them access resilience, rebuild trust in themselves, and realise they're not as powerless as they feel.

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243 arrests made on first full day of Notting Hill Carnival 2026
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Of the 243 arrests, 97 took place on the approaches to Carnival, with the remainder made within the event footprint itself.
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The operation began well before Carnival itself. More than 330 people considered by police to pose a significant risk were made subject to bail conditions preventing them from attending.
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